[Bluetooth] Use ACL config stage to retrieve remote features

The Bluetooth technology introduces new features on a regular basis
and for some of them it is important that the hardware on both sides
support them. For features like Simple Pairing it is important that
the host stacks on both sides have switched this feature on. To make
valid decisions, a config stage during ACL link establishment has been
introduced that retrieves remote features and if needed also the remote
extended features (known as remote host features) before signalling
this link as connected.

This change introduces full reference counting of incoming and outgoing
ACL links and the Bluetooth core will disconnect both if no owner of it
is present. To better handle interoperability during the pairing phase
the disconnect timeout for incoming connections has been increased to
10 seconds. This is five times more than for outgoing connections.

Signed-off-by: Marcel Holtmann <marcel@holtmann.org>