dm snapshot: move cow ref from exception store to snap core

Store the reference to the snapshot cow device in the core snapshot
code instead of each exception store.  It can be accessed through the
new function dm_snap_cow().  Exception stores should each now maintain a
reference to their parent snapshot struct.

This is cleaner and makes part of the forthcoming snapshot merge code simpler.

Signed-off-by: Mike Snitzer <snitzer@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alasdair G Kergon <agk@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Jonathan Brassow <jbrassow@redhat.com>
Cc: Mikulas Patocka <mpatocka@redhat.com>