btrfs_start_transaction: wait for commits in progress to finish

btrfs_commit_transaction has to loop waiting for any writers in the
transaction to finish before it can proceed.  btrfs_start_transaction
should be polite and not join a transaction that is in the process
of being finished off.

There are a few places that can't wait, basically the ones doing IO that
might be needed to finish the transaction.  For them, btrfs_join_transaction
is added.

Signed-off-by: Chris Mason <chris.mason@oracle.com>