IB/srp: allow lockless work posting

Only one CPU at a time will own an RX IU, so using the address of the IU
as the work request cookie allows us to avoid taking a lock. We can
similarly prepare the TX path for lockless posting by moving the free TX
IUs to a list. This also removes the requirement that the queue sizes be
a power of 2.

Signed-off-by: Bart Van Assche <bvanassche@acm.org>
[ broken out, small cleanups, and modified to avoid needing an extra field
  in the IU by David Dillow]
Signed-off-by: David Dillow <dillowda@ornl.gov>