libceph: clear CONNECTING in ceph_con_close()

A connection that is closed will no longer be connecting.  So
clear the CONNECTING state bit in ceph_con_close().  Similarly,
if the socket has been closed we no longer are in connecting
state (a new connect sequence will need to be initiated).

Signed-off-by: Alex Elder <elder@inktank.com>
Reviewed-by: Sage Weil <sage@inktank.com>