NSM: Generate NSMPROC_MON's "priv" argument when nsm_handle is created

Introduce a new data type, used by both the in-kernel NLM and NSM
implementations, that is used to manage the opaque "priv" argument
for the NSMPROC_MON and NLMPROC_SM_NOTIFY calls.

Construct the "priv" cookie when the nsm_handle is created.

The nsm_init_private() function may look a little strange, but it is
roughly equivalent to how the XDR encoder formed the "priv" argument.
It's going to go away soon.

Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@citi.umich.edu>