md/raid5: If there is a spare and a want_replacement device, start replacement.

When attempting to add a spare to a RAID[456] array, also consider
adding it as a replacement for a want_replacement device.

This requires that common md code attempt hot_add even when the array
is not formally degraded.

Reviewed-by: Dan Williams <dan.j.williams@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>