nfsd: Add reference counting to the lock and open stateids

When we remove the client_mutex, we'll need to be able to ensure that
these objects aren't destroyed while we're not holding locks.

Add a ->free() callback to the struct nfs4_stid, so that we can
release a reference to the stid without caring about the contents.

Signed-off-by: Trond Myklebust <trond.myklebust@primarydata.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Jeff Layton <jlayton@primarydata.com>
Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>