RDS: Rewrite rds_send_xmit

Simplify rds_send_xmit().

Send a congestion map (via xmit_cong_map) without
decrementing send_quota.

Move resetting of conn xmit variables to end of loop.

Update comments.

Implement a special case to turn off sending an rds header
when there is an atomic op and no other data.

Signed-off-by: Andy Grover <andy.grover@oracle.com>