mac80211: refactor mesh peer initialization

This patch unifies the previous two paths toward mesh peer creation a
bit. It also fixes a bug where a peer's changing rates or HT mode
wouldn't register on leaving and then returning to the mesh with a sta
entry still present.

Also clean up locking and clear possibly stale ht cap.

Signed-off-by: Thomas Pedersen <thomas@cozybit.com>
Signed-off-by: John W. Linville <linville@tuxdriver.com>