[SCSI] fcoe: Fix module ref count bug by adding NETDEV UNREGISTER handling

Fixes reference counting on fcoe_instance and net_device, and adds
NETDEV_UNREGISTER notifier handling so that you can unload network drivers.
FCoE no longer increments the module use count for the network driver.

On an NETDEV_UNREGISTER event, destroying the FCoE instance is deferred to a
workqueue context to avoid RTNL deadlocks.

Based in part by an earlier patch from John Fastabend

John's patch description:
Currently, the netdev module ref count is not decremented with module_put()
when the module is unloaded while fcoe instances are present. To fix this
removed reference count on netdev module completely and added functionality to
netdev event handling for NETDEV_UNREGISTER events.

This allows fcoe to remove devices cleanly when the netdev module is unloaded
so we no longer need to hold a reference count for the netdev module.

Signed-off-by: Chris Leech <christopher.leech@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Robert Love <robert.w.love@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: James Bottomley <James.Bottomley@suse.de>