drm/i915: execlist request keeps ptr/ref to gem_request

Add a reference and pointer from the execlist queue item to the associated
gem request. For execlist requests that don't have a request, create one
as a placeholder.

Issue: VIZ-4274
v1: Rebase after upstream of "Replace seqno values with request structures" patchset.

Signed-off-by: Nick Hoath <nicholas.hoath@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Thomas Daniel <thomas.daniel@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@ffwll.ch>