IPoIB: Move ipoib_ib_dev_flush() to ipoib workqueue

Move ipoib_ib_dev_flush() to ipoib's workqueue.  This keeps it ordered
with respect to other work scheduled by the ipoib driver.  This fixes
problems with races, for example:
 - ipoib_ib_dev_flush() has started running because of an IB event
 - user does ifconfig ib0 down
 - ipoib_mcast_stop_thread() gets called twice and waits for the same
   completion twice

Signed-off-by: Jack Morgenstein <jackm@mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>